I have many bad habits. I bite my nails, I swear a lot, I yell a lot, I have trouble adapting to change, I sometimes eat right before bed, I eat lots of junk food, I don’t exercise as much as I should, I spoil my kids and I don’t call my family as much as I should.
As you can see I have quite a few bad habits but the one that bothers me the most is my potty mouth. It bothers me because I have young children that listen to mommy and hear these words and try to repeat them. Like my two year old keeps saying “Damn!” because she hears mommy say it or my five year old that keeps saying “Helluva”
I remember watching this episode of Sponge Bob Square pants with my kids and sponge bob saw some curse words on the back of this garbage can. He wanted to know what they meant so he asked his best friend (Patrick the unintelligent starfish) what the word meant. He was informed by his friend that those words were considered to be “sentence enhancers”. I thought that was the funniest thing ever. My 13 year old keeps telling me she thinks that is why I use those words so much. She thinks I am “enhancing my sentences” as she laughs at me.
On top of that I bought Lady and the Tramp for my younger kids to watch. I wanted them to see all the classics and not some of these crazy cartoons out here. My kids were freaked out when Lady was referred to on a number of occasions in the movie as “a Bitch” my 5 year old and 13 year old were appalled. They came to me so upset.
“Why do they keep cursing in a kid’s movie?”
My response: laughing my ass off!
I had to tell them that technically the word is not really a bad word. Female dogs are called bitches but what makes the word bad is when you use it to describe a woman or another person. Then you are saying a bad word. In the same breath you can’t call boys or men dogs either. It’s the same thing. Also there are other words that are not curse words, I feel, until you use them to insult someone else like “Hell”, “Ass” or “Damn”. I tell my kids about these words but, they are still not allowed to use them because society sees them as bad words despite what their origins are. I do not need a call from school saying my kids are using foul language.
My five year old tells me that I shouldn't use them around the house then and she is right. She has resulted in calling me out when I use foul language. “Mommy, you said a bad word.” That is how I am trying to curb my bad habit of using “sentence enhancers”
I grew up in a house with a mother that was kind, loving supportive but cursed like a sailor. I grew up listening to that and it attached itself to my vocabulary. I know they say that using so many curse words can make you sound unintelligent, but it is very difficult for me to stop using them. I’m working on it because I don’t want my kids to pick up on my bad habits.
So I am trying hard not to say those words around my kids. They don’t think I can do it, but I am going to prove to them that I can stop. At least when I am around them…
So what bad habits do you want to stop?